Staying Indoors
The concept of staying home as an intentional choice may sound counterintuitive, especially in this society that glorifies the hustle and bustle of a busy lifestyle. However, and for many, staying in has evolved and become a conscious decision. This is in an attempt to cultivate deeper connections, nurture intimacy, and prioritize self-care within the confines of a familiar shared space.
While staying home as a couple may present its own challenges, such as maintaining boundaries and finding a balance between personal space and togetherness, it is through these moments that couples can grow and learn more about each other. By openly communicating, respecting each other’s needs, and adapting to the evolving dynamics, couples can navigate the occasional obstacles that arise and forge an even stronger partnership.
So, he’s been going out a lot, and now you want him indoors this cold season – guess what ladies, football season is over, and you have grounds to keep him in the house; No more “I’m out to catch a game with the guys” excuses or the “The match is running late”. The ball is now in your court, here are some tips on how to keep him home and maybe he won’t leave even when the football season resumes.
Create a Warm Atmosphere
Give a man a fire and he is warm for a day but set fire to him and he is warm for the rest of his life.
- Anonymous -

Ladies, remember those ideas on how to host an ultimate girl’s night, you can definitely steal some tips from there. Men are suckers for warmth; it creates a space for them to escape the reality of their masculine side. By making your home a cozy space, you give them the opportunity to let loose and lower their guard for a while.
This can be achieved by using soft lighting, having scented candles, and adding extra blankets and pillows to create a warm ambiance. This will make your partner feel comfortable and content.
Communication and Quality Time
Knowing your man’s Love Languages is key to a healthy relationship and indoor dates present an opportunity to express them. Quality time, being one of the love languages, allows you to intentionally spend time together engaging in meaningful conversations and actively listening to each other. This will help strengthen your bond and create a sense of emotional connection. For a man quality time is keen on Giving Him Undivided Attention and what better time than when you’re in the comfort of your intimate space.
Considering these moments are rare, choose what to discuss wisely. Date nights are a moment for reflection and analysis into the betterment of the relationship. Ensure to involve topics that are healthy for both of you and if any conflict resolution is required, here are some tips on how to approach tough talks while still keeping him excited for the date.
When it comes to gender, men and women often speak different “genderlects.” From an early age girls and boys are spoken to differently by parents, teachers and other close connections.
- Deborah Tannen, Professor of Linguistics -

Pursue Shared Interests
Be it playing games or slow dancing to romantic songs that you both enjoy; these activities focus on emotion and connection between two people and are often accompanied by romantic lyrics. They come with intimate touch and body connectedness that balances a hype mood and slow the tempo of the date.
It is said that partners don’t need to share common interests, but this does not limit couples from spending quality time together and bonding over different activities or games. Coming up with activities that both of you enjoy and pursuing them together can be an agenda for a date night or that indoor hang out. Men either love to be on the move or watch other men move, whether it’s a hobby, a sport, or a creative project, engaging in shared interests can bring you closer.

Surprise Gestures

Ladies, it has become the narrative that after settling into a relationship, the effort that was put in while luring your partner is not the same that we often carry on, with gestures such as sexy lingerie fading into a memory. It is no secret men love women in sexy lingerie and by carrying on this routine, you are guaranteed to keep him fixated on you. Here are 10 lingerie commandments for date nights that you can implement to keep his eyes glued to you.
Other gestures include surprising him with his favorite meal coupled with some good wine – something away from the norm, having a self-care routine for him (manicure, pedicure and facials) and accepting to watch his favorite movie or even watch his team play. Note that the aim is not to please you but him, so ensure your effort is visible whatever the case. Remember, take out from his favorite food joint can also bring a smile to his face, you don’t have to kill yourself in the kitchen.
Cuddling Season
Last but not least, if ever there was a reason to stay in and have a cozy cuddle session, then the cold outdoors would be it. The indoor hangout should ultimately end up somewhere, and what would be a better destination than cuddling? Just like we stated at the start, men are fuzzy big babies, and providing warmth goes a long way in affirming your love for them.
Whether on a normal day, or a purposed hangout, cuddling remains an act of endearment for couples. This form of touch makes them feel less anxious, and bonded as a pair which in turn makes one more empathetic to their partner.
Cuddling releases the feel-good hormones such as oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin which when released one experiences feelings of happiness, relaxation, improve mood, and further can lower levels of depression.

Ultimately, the choice to stay home as a couple is about prioritizing the relationship and recognizing the value of spending quality time together. It is an intentional decision to create a nurturing and supportive environment that allows love and connection to flourish. By embracing the art of staying home, couples can create a foundation of happiness, warmth, and contentment that will extend far beyond the confines of their shared space.